I told my boss at work today that I’m going through IVF.
We have a quarterly performance interview (standard procedure at the university – not because I’m a poor performer) and she confessed she might be away from work a lot because her sister is dying of cancer. So I also confessed I might be away a lot in the future because of my treatment.
It felt like a huge relief to come clean. Now I won’t need to lie about where I’m going if I have clinic appointments during the day. She was very understanding and said family is more important than work and I simply have to try IVF, even if it doesn’t work out.
In other news it’s now apparent I’m not great at keeping secrets…….
I have now told nine people we are going through IVF.
- My mother
- My younger brother Alex
- Doug’s mum Kate and stepdad John
- Doug’s dad Will and stepmum Mary
- My cousin and close friend Phoebe
- My work colleague Liv (the one who had cancer)
- And now my boss!
I think it’s actually worked out well this way. I now have great support networks set up in both our families and my workplace. This is exactly how it needs to be.
We still haven’t told Doug’s sister Jess. I guess that will need to be done sooner rather than later because she keeps texting me stuff about her pregnancy and it’s starting to drive me crazy.