The last pregnancy update

Were you able to glean from my super creative blog post title that this will be my last pregnancy update before my baby is born? You did? Naww you guys are so clever.

I still want to update once more (hopefully on the weekend) about James, because I really need to have a huge vent session about him.

But as far as the pregnancy goes…this is it. And I can’t believe I’m saying that.

I can’t believe that within the next week I will be logging onto wordpress and saying “hey you guys…this is my daughter.”

That doesn’t feel real to me.

You know, I was 24 years old when I started trying to conceive with my husband. I’m now less than two weeks away from my 30th birthday. That’s six years. And six years is a long time, right?

But going through eight cycles of IVF and several fertility surgeries and multiple miscarriages and divorce and heartbreak and losing everything financially and debilitating depression and completely rebuilding my life and all the rest of it…six years actually seems like such a short timeframe to fit all that trauma in.

The entire past six years of my life are just a blur. The good, the bad, the ugly. My husband being with me, my husband being gone. Living in the city, living in Paradise. The highs and lows with James. They all just merge into one gigantic haze of emotion.

When my husband left me, I remember feeling so crushed that I believed I would never function as a normal human being again. Not only had he taken away the love and support of the only person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, he’d also stolen from me any chance I ever had to start a family. I couldn’t fathom how he could do that to me.

Two different doctors told me I would need a hysterectomy the year I turn 30. That was only two short years away, on the night my husband walked out of my life.

There was no way I was going to meet someone and fall pregnant within two years. Just no way. It was impossible. Completely out of the question.

And here I am…two weeks away from my 30th birthday and just one week away from giving birth.

I mean let’s not pretend the situation is ideal here. I’ve not met a new love and settled down into happy relationship bliss. Quite the opposite, really.

But nevertheless, the baby is real. And mine. I get to keep her. I get to take her home with me and she will be mine for the rest of forever. I will have to share her with her dad, but nobody will ever be her mother except for me.

When will this sink in for me? When she is born? When I take her home? When she is one year old? Five years old? When she graduates high school? When will this feel real?

I went for my last obstetrician appointment yesterday.

Baby is still breech. Not a huge surprise.

I mean I can actually see her head. I have a clear visual of it most of the day. It sits raised up above my bump, right underneath my ribcage.

It freaks my mother out. Sometimes I grab her hand and make her touch it, and she shrieks and runs away like someone has just thrown a spider at her. She said it gives her the creeps because you can so clearly feel that it’s a baby’s head under my skin but I think it’s hilarious.

As booboo is breech I’m not going to get the opportunity to do a maternal assisted c-section or have too much involvement at all. But I have been able to negotiate delayed cord clamping for her which makes me happy. They don’t routinely do that for c-section babies but my doctor was happy to comply.

Last week at my appointment my fundal height was measuring 39 weeks. The doctor thought that would pretty much be it, and baby might plump up a little but nothing more.

This week, my fundal height was measuring 42.5 weeks.

Let me just repeat that for you.

My bump is measuring past 42 weeks already.

My baby has had a massive growth spurt in the past week.

“I don’t mean to scare you,” Dr Eminem said. “But you have a huge baby in there. Huge. You’ll be lucky if she’s only ten pounds.”

Lucky if she’s only ten pounds? Good Lord…

“If you weren’t forced to have a c-section because of her breech position I would be strongly recommending a c-section for you anyway.” he continued. “That child would destroy your pelvic floor and also be at increased risk of getting stuck.”

How has this happened?

At 5 foot 4 inches tall and 64kg (140 pounds) when I fell pregnant (sadly I’m like 180 pounds now)…I’m not exactly a huge person.

How have I managed to cook a monster baby?!? No wonder I’m covered in stretch marks…

It makes me wonder if they should actually have re-tested me for gestational diabetes. I know I passed my glucose tolerance test just fine, but how else is such a huge baby possible?! What kind of genetics am I working with here…?

Anyway I asked my doctor if perhaps we should just be taking her out like………now. Right now.

But the doctor seems to think she’s quite happy in there. She’s not currently in any distress and obviously the placenta is still feeding her quite nicely because she’s growing faster than Donald Trump’s wackadoodle support base.

Also, my doctor is going in for surgery of his own and will be out of action for a few days. He is having a skin cancer cut off his face under a general anesthetic so he needs a few days to recover.

He said he is concerned I may go into labour spontaneously in the next few days (in which case his colleague will perform my c-section instead) but he is really desperately hoping she stays put until my scheduled surgery date so he can be the one to deliver her.

He said after everything I’ve been through, he really wants to be there for this birth. So much so that he’s actually coming back from his own scheduled leave just to do my surgery. So that’s nice I guess.

I was actually due to work up until the day before the baby is born. I was determined to work as close to my due date as possible so that I get to spend the most conceivable time at home with her before I need to return to work full-time next year.

But I’m first up on the daily theatre list and working until 5pm the night before, and then having my baby at 6am the following day seems a little…silly.

Especially now I’m so big. I mean no wonder I can’t sleep at night or breathe or walk properly or, you know, function as an adult. Nobody is supposed to actually get this big haha!

To be honest I’m a bit of a physical wreck and really in no condition to drive to work or sit at my desk for nine hours a day at the moment.

So I’m signing off work three days prior to my c-section. I’m still pretty happy that I’ve been able to work all the way up to three days before she is born – especially as I was acting in a higher duties role up until last week so dealing with extra stress.

I’m pretty proud of myself for that effort. Hopefully three days is enough time to actually get some sleep before she arrives.

Speaking of her arrival, I’m very lucky that the hospital is allowing me to have two people in the surgical theatre room when she’s born.

Due to the number of medical staff required in the room, the hospital has a strict policy that only one person is allowed to accompany the mother during the procedure. But my doctor has okayed it for me to have two – so it means I will have my mother with me as well as James.

It’s very comforting to know that if James loses the plot at any point and starts to make this whole thing about him and how he feels and what he thinks and how everyone should be treating him and blah blah blah (which I believe is a good possibility), my mother can step in to support me.

The worst thing would be James in the corner ranting that his life is ruined because he never wanted a baby or that I’m selfish or anything else whilst I’m numb on the table and the doctor is cutting me open. Hopefully it won’t happen. But…it may. Actually I think it’s a lot more likely to happen directly after she is born. But I’ll cover off on all of that in my next post.

For now…I think I’ve covered everything about the pregnancy.

Can anyone who has had a c-section give me some tips? Hints? Suggestions?

What mistakes did you make right after baby was born? What’s the best thing you did to get you up and moving quickly? How did you go with painkillers? Did you take them all or turn them down? Did you get bad vomiting after the procedure?

I will be forced to stay in bed for 24 hours after delivery. It’s a hospital policy – they keep the mother catheterized to keep them immobile. Not sure why.

But after that I really want to try and be up and moving as quickly as possible.

Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!

Apart from my next post about James that pretty much wraps things up.

So…see you all on the other side!

(Ahhhh just writing those words terrifies me!!)

Sadie xx


21 thoughts on “The last pregnancy update

  1. How exciting! James sounds like he needs a kick in the pants! I know my mother said that getting moving as soon as you’re allowed to is good for recovery, just start slow and listen to your body 🙂 So exciting you get to meet your baby soon!! Yay!!

  2. Ohmygod! One week eeeeeeh!!! It’s gonna be the best birthday ever for you 😊 and if mister can’t hold himself, he can always walk out of the room. Don’t let him spoil these precious first moments.
    No advice, just don’t make too many expectations, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. 😘

  3. My sister was in a lot of pain from her c section and the hospital encouraged the use of painkillers in order to help her cope and adjust to beibg a first time mom. She was up and moving fast and she and baby were happy and healthy. Good luck!

    • Thanks for the advice! My doctor said there’s no point rejecting painkillers to keep them out of the baby’s milk supply but then being in so much pain I can’t get up to the baby when she cries. Hoping it won’t be too bad taking the meds. ☺

  4. I just want to say….YAY!!! The day is almost here! My mom birthed 2 ten plus pound boys naturally and, let me tell ya… no. I would be calling c section! Lol.

    Also, I really didn’t have much pain after my c section. I know that’s not the norm but it is possible you won’t be in too much pain. I never needed more than Advil alternating with Tylenol. No narcotics except what was used during the actual operation.

    Once you are allowed to get up, take it slow and easy but do make a point to walk around a bit every couple hours. You’ll be running to and from the potty anyway. 😉 I wouldn’t recommend trying to do long distances by any means. A walk to the potty and the kitchen is plenty. As I mentioned before, you will feel mostly normal in just a few weeks most likely.

    I hope everything will go well and I can’t wait to see pictures and hear the birth story! Also, I remember my breech baby having his head up by my left rib. I rubbed his head constantly as I could feel it so well!!! DH said I was going to rub all of baby’s hair off. As it turns out, he was born with less hair on top than on the sides!! Lol. 😉 Coincidence, I’m sure.

    Ok, enough reminiscing. 🙂

  5. Wow! It’s so close now! Can’t wait to read the good news! Don’t let James ruin this memorable day (but I guesssomething tells me your mother will be able to make him hold his mouth!). Take it easy and enjoy the birth of your little girl. (And as soon as you are fit, write your memories – not for us but for you! – because details fade so fast!)
    I wish you the best birth ever!

  6. I’m so excited for you! The best day of your life is coming up. You will instantly feel the peace that she is yours to keep as soon as you meet her. My csection was a total breeze after the multiple surgeries I’d gone through. I am hoping the same for you. We don’t have 24 hour bed rest in canada. I was up to the washroom just a few hours after surgery. You will retain loads of fluid so getting up and about asap as it will help get that fluid moving out of your system. I took Percocet for two days and then stopped heavy medication. Just took Tylenol or Aleve. I personally didn’t need it and never take pain meds more than a few days. I have a friend, however, that found she needed them for weeks because her pain was bad. I am guessing you have a high pain tolerance or more so a strong will and will deal with the pain just fine. Perhaps take stool softener if they don’t offer that at the hospital (they gave them to me as part of my medication protocol). Definitely take it easy after surgery. Let mom and dad help you. Lots! You don’t have to be a hero. I had some scar tissue develop under my incision (very typical) so I would kneed it gently with my finger tips to help break it up (recommended by my dr). At one year post csection it is a flat and I honestly never even think of it. Good luck Sadie! A can not wait to meet your baby girl xo (good luck with James too).

  7. Sooo excited for you! Hopefully, I can make you feel better about your csection- mine was amazing!! I had anti-naseau drugs before the procedure, since I have a queasy stomach and didn’t want to risk vomiting. I was ordered out of bed after 11 hours (although I’m told I was the only mommy on the floor who actually complied with this request) and would take several trips around the floor a day, with baby and catheter in tow. It hurts like a bitch, but only the first time. I can tell you that the sooner you move, the quicker you will recover- they released me two days early because of how well everything went. Three days post op I was home, with no pain, completely back to normal, aside from now having a baby. Honestly, I was so pleased with how everything went. The worst part was the shaking- I hear it’s pretty normal to shake uncontrollably when the meds start leaving your body, but it’s over with after a few hours. For pain management, they offered me morphine or hydrocodone ( but I could only have two of hydrocodone pills during my entire stay. Probably different in Australia. F-ing obamacare.) my body responds much better to hydrocodone, so I was SOL after the first day in the hospital, but by then I wasn’t it that much pain anyway.

    Anyway, good luck to you, and I’m very excited for you! Xoxo

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